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  • chosensilence@pawb.socialC chosensilence@pawb.social

    are you referring to socialists and communists and anarchists? because we love guns over here.

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    mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    The old joke is that if you go far enough left, you get your guns back.

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    • B bytemeister@lemmy.world

      I think a lot of people have not read the article. Locker rooms/changing rooms are already uncomfortable. If there was a girl in my locker room in school, I would have been uncomfortable too. From the article, I wouldn't go so far as to call it bullying, and suspending the students, but it's clear that this is a time to have a talk with them, and if he is willing, the trans student as well.

      In fairness to the school district, they said they would not have suspended the students for something like this, and they are investigating. So chances are there is more that happened than what is in the news cycle.

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      tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world
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      It sounds like there wasn't a girl in the locker room, but a trans boy.

      I'm not saying that isn't awkward, but your perception of events aren't exactly accurate either.

      I'm trans personally, and I think the solution to this is more gender-neutral spaces. If I use the men's room, I make men uncomfortable because I'm a woman. If I didn't pass, I might make folks uncomfortable in the women's room instead.

      The issue is the gender binary and our cultures discomfort of anything outside it. Not that a trans boy was more comfortable in the boys locker room.

      That said, I don't think the trans boy should have been filming. I get the he wanted to catch the harassment on video, but an audio recording would have served the same purpose.

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      • B bytemeister@lemmy.world

        I think a lot of people have not read the article. Locker rooms/changing rooms are already uncomfortable. If there was a girl in my locker room in school, I would have been uncomfortable too. From the article, I wouldn't go so far as to call it bullying, and suspending the students, but it's clear that this is a time to have a talk with them, and if he is willing, the trans student as well.

        In fairness to the school district, they said they would not have suspended the students for something like this, and they are investigating. So chances are there is more that happened than what is in the news cycle.

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        stinky@redlemmy.com
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        Then it's fortunate that your personal experience doesn't dictate school safety procedures 🙂

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        • T tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world

          It sounds like there wasn't a girl in the locker room, but a trans boy.

          I'm not saying that isn't awkward, but your perception of events aren't exactly accurate either.

          I'm trans personally, and I think the solution to this is more gender-neutral spaces. If I use the men's room, I make men uncomfortable because I'm a woman. If I didn't pass, I might make folks uncomfortable in the women's room instead.

          The issue is the gender binary and our cultures discomfort of anything outside it. Not that a trans boy was more comfortable in the boys locker room.

          That said, I don't think the trans boy should have been filming. I get the he wanted to catch the harassment on video, but an audio recording would have served the same purpose.

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          stinky@redlemmy.com
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          I agree completely and I'm impressed that you were so cordial with @Bytemeister@lemmy.world

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          • M magikmw@piefed.social

            My opinion: no.
            Children under certain age have no capacity to detect malice or disinformation when interacting with others, especially adults and algorithms bent on harm.

            Hell, most adults probably aren't.
            But as long as a child has a guardian, it's the guardian's responsibility to teach, guide and protect.

            Letting a child lose into the internet is harmful, just like letting one out into a city.

            I don't think age verification is a particularly good tool to enforce that, but I don't know what is, on a societal level.

            I do agree with the stated goals tho.

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            paraphrand@lemmy.world
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            I was being sarcastic. I’m surprised no one noticed.

            Usually it’s “fuck this! Parents should do their job!” Around here and in gamer/tech nerd spaces.

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            • T tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world

              It sounds like there wasn't a girl in the locker room, but a trans boy.

              I'm not saying that isn't awkward, but your perception of events aren't exactly accurate either.

              I'm trans personally, and I think the solution to this is more gender-neutral spaces. If I use the men's room, I make men uncomfortable because I'm a woman. If I didn't pass, I might make folks uncomfortable in the women's room instead.

              The issue is the gender binary and our cultures discomfort of anything outside it. Not that a trans boy was more comfortable in the boys locker room.

              That said, I don't think the trans boy should have been filming. I get the he wanted to catch the harassment on video, but an audio recording would have served the same purpose.

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              jj4211@lemmy.world
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              To be fair, the big WTF to me was that the trans boy walked into the locker room to film the reactions. I think breaking out the camera in any locker room by anyone would be considered unacceptable.

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              • T tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world

                It sounds like there wasn't a girl in the locker room, but a trans boy.

                I'm not saying that isn't awkward, but your perception of events aren't exactly accurate either.

                I'm trans personally, and I think the solution to this is more gender-neutral spaces. If I use the men's room, I make men uncomfortable because I'm a woman. If I didn't pass, I might make folks uncomfortable in the women's room instead.

                The issue is the gender binary and our cultures discomfort of anything outside it. Not that a trans boy was more comfortable in the boys locker room.

                That said, I don't think the trans boy should have been filming. I get the he wanted to catch the harassment on video, but an audio recording would have served the same purpose.

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                bytemeister@lemmy.world
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                No, I think I got it alright.

                and if he is willing, the trans student as well.

                I imagine some girls would be equally as uncomfortable with this boy in their locker room. From the perspective of those other boys, there was a girl in their locker room. We need to teach understanding that trans people exist, and they need to use bathrooms and locker rooms as well.

                I'm with you on having more availability of gender neutral locker rooms, but until schools either integrate all locker rooms (unlikely, seeing how parents have reacted) or build a 3rd locker room (equally unlikely IMO) then we need to teach about how trans people feel, and replace fear and discomfort with understanding and acceptance.

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                • stinky@redlemmy.comS stinky@redlemmy.com

                  Then it's fortunate that your personal experience doesn't dictate school safety procedures 🙂

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                  bytemeister@lemmy.world
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                  I agree, but let's analyze this a bit further... Who's personal experience should dictate school safety procedures?

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                  • J jj4211@lemmy.world

                    To be fair, the big WTF to me was that the trans boy walked into the locker room to film the reactions. I think breaking out the camera in any locker room by anyone would be considered unacceptable.

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                    bytemeister@lemmy.world
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                    True. My guess is that this is something that has been consistently happening to him. Knowing how schools slow-roll harassment and bullying compliants (unless it has been massively reworked in the last 20 years) he probably saw video evidence as the only way to force the staff to intervene, and was willing to accept the risks of filming the incident.

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                    • B bytemeister@lemmy.world

                      No, I think I got it alright.

                      and if he is willing, the trans student as well.

                      I imagine some girls would be equally as uncomfortable with this boy in their locker room. From the perspective of those other boys, there was a girl in their locker room. We need to teach understanding that trans people exist, and they need to use bathrooms and locker rooms as well.

                      I'm with you on having more availability of gender neutral locker rooms, but until schools either integrate all locker rooms (unlikely, seeing how parents have reacted) or build a 3rd locker room (equally unlikely IMO) then we need to teach about how trans people feel, and replace fear and discomfort with understanding and acceptance.

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                      tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world
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                      #47

                      If there was a girl in my locker room in school, I would have been uncomfortable too.

                      I was referencing specifically this part of your post.

                      But I agree with your take overall. And see that in the quoted text you were referencing the boys perceptions. But it also sounds like this harassment was ongoing, hence the trans boy feeling the need to record it. Calling him a girl was likely part of that harassment. They likely know he's trans. But are learning a lot of exclusionary rhetoric from their peers and likely adults too. Which they used to harass and exclude the trans boy.

                      We need education, inclusion. And yeah, safe gender neutral spaces too.

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                      • B bytemeister@lemmy.world

                        I agree, but let's analyze this a bit further... Who's personal experience should dictate school safety procedures?

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                        tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world
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                        #48

                        I'm going to circle back around, there was an investigation launched. They don't launch those investigations without evidence. And the boys were suspended, which means that the school board, with their experience dealing with bullies found that this was a situation where a trans boy was being bullied by his peers. The school used it's experience to determine the answer question you posed. And suspended the bullies.

                        In your comment that I initially replied to, you pushed the idea that these kids truly believe that this is a girl. I think it's far more likely that they know he's trans, and view him as a freak. Calling him a girl wasn't there perception. It was the language they chose to bully someone they see as different.

                        And incidents like this are why suicide rates are high in the trans population.

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                        • T tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world

                          If there was a girl in my locker room in school, I would have been uncomfortable too.

                          I was referencing specifically this part of your post.

                          But I agree with your take overall. And see that in the quoted text you were referencing the boys perceptions. But it also sounds like this harassment was ongoing, hence the trans boy feeling the need to record it. Calling him a girl was likely part of that harassment. They likely know he's trans. But are learning a lot of exclusionary rhetoric from their peers and likely adults too. Which they used to harass and exclude the trans boy.

                          We need education, inclusion. And yeah, safe gender neutral spaces too.

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                          bytemeister@lemmy.world
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                          In fairness to my past self, a locker room was a place to change my clothes and get out. I was uncomfortable being in there with anyone for any length of time.

                          I'm trying to take a view from the other boys, who see him as a girl. You can't reasonably expect people who've grown up in a society where they're is a binary assignment between boy and girl at birth to suddenly understand and accept a trans person, without some kind of education, coaching and adjustment period. From the other boys perspective, this student was a girl, and he just came into the locker room and started filming them. If I went into a women's locker room and started filming, I probably would get a police escort out of the building with some shiny new bracelets. There are two sides to this story. I'm not saying that the trans boy wasn't being harassed. I was saying that there is more going on here, because a couple of boys saying "I'm not comfortable with this girl in the locker room" wouldn't get them suspended for 10 days, the school district said the same thing in the article.

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                          • T tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world

                            I'm going to circle back around, there was an investigation launched. They don't launch those investigations without evidence. And the boys were suspended, which means that the school board, with their experience dealing with bullies found that this was a situation where a trans boy was being bullied by his peers. The school used it's experience to determine the answer question you posed. And suspended the bullies.

                            In your comment that I initially replied to, you pushed the idea that these kids truly believe that this is a girl. I think it's far more likely that they know he's trans, and view him as a freak. Calling him a girl wasn't there perception. It was the language they chose to bully someone they see as different.

                            And incidents like this are why suicide rates are high in the trans population.

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                            bytemeister@lemmy.world
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                            Not relevant to this thread. Since you're here though...

                            ...let’s analyze this a bit further… Who’s personal experience should dictate school safety procedures?

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                            • dan1101@lemmy.worldD dan1101@lemmy.world

                              Yeah but the human shit stains will just recede back into the woodwork before they can all be identified.

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                              cocopanda@lemmy.world
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                              Not this time bro. When the war starts. We have all of their social media posts to give us the identification of all the Nazi’s. Well literally arrest Zuckerberg and take over Facebook and then hunt down the Nazi’s.

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                              • F fedizen@lemmy.world

                                This has gone too far. Conservative media has just become purposeless cruelty. Bullying in any form shouldn't be allowed in school. Its obviously not only inhumane to allow that shit but its a liability for schools.

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                                tehn00bi@lemmy.world
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                                When was it not? Rush was pretty mean back in the day.

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                                  mourningdove@lemmy.zip
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                                  Frankly, I’m surprised this even happened. I couldn’t care less about how this makes MAGA feel. I’m just glad the kids were seen and those that could- did something to protect them.

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                                    bennyboybumberchums@lemmy.world
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                                    In the video, which became public in May, one boy can be heard asking, “There’s a girl in here?” Another adds, “Why is there a girl? I’m so uncomfortable there is a girl.” Their comments prompted another boy to insist that the trans student leave.

                                    ...this is "bulling" is it? In my day, bullying was getting the shit kicked out of me every day. And I didnt even get the worst of it. Kids being assholes has always been a thing, as much as everyone wants to deny it. One kid in my school was held down while another dude pissed in his mouth. We were 7 at the time.

                                    From the article, the trans student entered the boys locker room with a fucking video camera going. But its the boys who felt uncomfortable who that were found responsible for sexual harassment and sex-based discrimination???

                                    I dont like MAGA either, but this is all just so fucking stupid. And its clear as fucking day that none of you read the fucking article.

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                                    • T tehn00bi@lemmy.world

                                      When was it not? Rush was pretty mean back in the day.

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                                      newnewaugusteast@lemmy.zip
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                                      Nobody in either of my kids schools get bullied. It hasn't been an issue for 20 years. It doesn't take a lot of effort either. Kids just don't see the point, they have better things to do.

                                      If you make an effort you can shut that shit down.

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                                        Looks like it's been misreported as one male saying in the locker room "there's a girl in here" and others saying they felt uncomfortable with a girl there. The school say there's more to it than media covered. Suspending a group for 10 days for expressing discomfort wouldn't be valid, but obviously that's not what happened

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                                        • T tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world

                                          It sounds like there wasn't a girl in the locker room, but a trans boy.

                                          I'm not saying that isn't awkward, but your perception of events aren't exactly accurate either.

                                          I'm trans personally, and I think the solution to this is more gender-neutral spaces. If I use the men's room, I make men uncomfortable because I'm a woman. If I didn't pass, I might make folks uncomfortable in the women's room instead.

                                          The issue is the gender binary and our cultures discomfort of anything outside it. Not that a trans boy was more comfortable in the boys locker room.

                                          That said, I don't think the trans boy should have been filming. I get the he wanted to catch the harassment on video, but an audio recording would have served the same purpose.

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                                          bennyboybumberchums@lemmy.world
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                                          Anyone else walks into a boys locker room with a camera recording, is going to jail. Instead the victims of this invasion are the ones found to have been sexually harassing the one recording them...

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